How to Deal with Office Politics

Do any of you work in an office environment?

If you do, then you know that office politics within an organization is nothing new. It’s been around since the creation of the office.

But do you know why it exists and the best way to react to it?

For the people that are the perpetrators of this bad behavior, know that it comes from one or several fear based emotions like arrogance, criticism, cruelty, jealousy, insecurity, judgment, worry, envy or disdain and it's a cancer that can spread throughout an "organ-ization."  

These people may feel threatened by your abilities or perhaps they think that you want their job.  It's  been scientifically proven that these fear based emotions are draining, unbalancing both the body and the mind to the point of chronic and life-shortening diseases. 

Instead of reacting and allowing your feelings to move toward a corresponding fear based emotion, look on these people with compassion. You’ll be happier and healthier. 

Like a sail with no wind, if you ignore it, you give it no power. Remember that your candle does not glow brighter by extinguishing someone elses.  

Now I'm not saying that you should be a doormat by any means. You can be an incredibly nice and giving person, but when that political individual or clique interferes with or tries to undermine your productivity, don't be afraid to show them what you’re made of and that you're a force to be reckoned with, but do it with kindness. And don’t feel like speaking to management is out of the question. If your manager is a good one, then they're already aware of the issue and will work with you, not against you. 

As I write the above I am reminded of the story of the Buddha who took a vow of celibacy. The elders in the town knew how strong the Buddha was as his following increased. They persuaded a young woman who attended his classes to say that the Buddha had impregnated her. With a large piece of rounded wood under her garment, the elders brought her to him amassing a crowd as they gathered in the courtyard.  They accused the Buddha of repudiating his vow and taking advantage of this innocent woman. The Buddha turned and outstretched his arm, pointing his finger toward the woman saying, “You know the truth.”

With those words, the wood fell from under her garment for all to see.

I leave you with these words. Office politics can be ugly and damages the inner fiber of those who participate in it. Show others the strong fiber you're made of and take a different road to the top!

Wishing you a day filled with compassion and love

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania

Happy Halloween 2014 - Treat Yourself

Ghosts and goblins, zombies and witches, we go door to door, collecting confectionery riches. We traipse through the streets on All Hallows Eve, displaying our costumes for all those to see.

But few of us know that this day from long ago,was ritualized by Celtics, Druids and Christians alike. Yes, that’s right, for over 2000 years now, festivals were celebrated on this night as people lit bonfires and wore costumes to ward off roaming ghosts. The next day, November 1, the New Year would come and honor be given to saints, martyrs and all their passed loved ones.

Although we have lost most of the history of Halloween, we take that time to dress up and have fun as we relive the more carefree time of our youth.

Let this carefree time in your life continue as you skip down the street and shuffle your feet. Throw up your arms, then swing them around. And cherish the times when you don’t need to be so serious about life. 

Wishing you a day filled with only treats!

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


Don't Be Afraid to Reveal the Real You

The funny thing about pretending to be someone else; do it long enough, 
and you forget who you really are, that is if you knew who you were in the first place.  

Saying to yourself, well, LeeZa, you can't be talking about me. 

Well, darling, if you define yourself by who you work for, your job title, the size house you own, car you drive, the organizations you align with or the college you graduated from, then maybe you are pretending after all.

As you increase your awareness, you want to let go of what no longer serves you. So let down the veil, remove the mask and just be the real person underneath all that pretension. You just may find out that there is an incredible non-judgmental loving being under all those designer clothes. 

Have a beautiful day,

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


What to Do during Challenging Times

We all have unpleasant situations at times that get us down and make us question the “Big Plan” that is laid out for us from above.

But when I heard about what a long-time friend is facing, I don’t think I'll ever have the right to complain about any situation that I have faced or will face in future. 

Within a three day period, this beautiful, vivacious woman, single parent of three was diagnosed with an advanced stage of cancer and found that her home was up for auction and her bankruptcy lawyer did not file because he’s in jail over a DUI. You just can't make stuff like this up kids. She drove herself the 3 hours to file the bankruptcy at the court in order to halt the auction that was supposed to happen earlier today. After filing, exhausted, she drove straight to her job in the hospitality industry.

She later phoned me and explained that she was calm as she laughed and said “What else can go wrong?” I think it’s because she has gotten to the point of no return. Have you ever gotten to the point when the only way left is up? And all you throw your hands up in the air and give it up to the all that is, God.

At some point in each of our lives we all face times filled with great challenges.

The only thing you can do is to stay calm and breathe and remember this quote from St. Francis de Sales, 

"We shall steer safely through every storm, 
so long as our heart is right, 
our intention fervent, our courage steadfast,
and our trust fixed on God."

And i know that when our spirit is strong, we cannmove mountains.,

I pray for my friend, that she knows inner joy and peace each moment of her life as she taps into her spirit, and shows the world her strength. 

I ask that if you are reading this article to please take a moment now and pray for those who are going through difficult times where life makes no sense and fairness seems to have been tossed aside.

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


To This Someone You are the World

A couple of years back right around Valentine’s Day when I was in a small tea shop that sold flowers, I overheard the clerk taking an order with a personalized card that said, “To the World you are someone, but to this someone you are the World.”

It was such a profound statement that it stuck in my mind.  For those of you in relationships, have you ever heard words from your partner like this?   

I receive correspondence from many of you about your relationships. When I do, I am once again reminded of these few words, these gems and want to share some quick thoughts to the ladies about relationships on this pleasant Sunday afternoon. 

If your partner does not make you feel as if you mean the world to them, then perhaps it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship.  Do you not realize that you are a goddess?  And what does a goddess do?

Well they certainly don't accept less than they deserve, now, do they.  

Wake up ladies and slip into your goddess skin and don’t settle for someone who is not going to treat you like one.  If that means that you are single for a while, so be it.  Personally, I get asked out quite a bit, but I won’t accept an invitation from a man who I know will not treat me like the goddess that I am. My time is valuable and so is yours, my dears.

Although only a movie, the love story between Edward and Bella is an example of a man will move heaven and earth if he wants to be with you. 

This is not just fiction, ladies, as I speak from my own experiences that there are men out there that will honor and respect you and treat you like the goddess that you are. And you don’t need to do anything but show them that goddess. The men I have spent time with know that a goddess is rare and treat her as such.  

To the fellas out there who don’t agree, well, I can only assume that you have not yet met one.

Wishing you a day filled with love, 

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


Interview with a Real Goddess

I smiled when the phone rang and I was asked by the Goddess Dairies Radio for an interview. It's always such a honor and privledge to be asked to share what one knows. And with Dawn Champine as the host it was an extrodianary opportunity to share ideas with such a beautiful fellow goddess

Click here to listen to my recent radio interview labeled, Interview with a Real Goddess.

Sending you peace and love,

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania

Don’t be afraid of change,

I was born on the 16th of the month. For those of you who are into the meaning of numbers and signs, it is the tower card, that some consider chaos or continual change. When I found this out it explained a lot about the way I have live my life and embrace change, looking forward to the next thing with excitement instead of fear. Not staying in one place for very long has also been part of my makeup, so I have always found projects that have an end date that I can see and touch attractive. 

When I took a moment to take an accounting of how many places I have stayed for a month or more in the last year and came up with over a half dozen, even I scratched my head in amazement. The only thing that makes sense of it all is the fact that the “powers that be” want me to be very accustomed to change.

Many of you can not relate to my free and easy lifestyle, but at this point, I know no other way to explore the grand vastness of this world. Although I still enjoy all the comforts of life, I hold on to very little material things and accept each person I meet as a new potential friend that may only be in my life for a short while.

With the new energies coming in, you too may be faced with great changes in your life, the place that you live, your work, family and friends as you’re asked to stretch your wings and prepare to fly. Don’t be afraid of the change that is coming, knowing that there is always a path in front of you that has been laid out for your best interest.

Don’t be afraid of change, but embrace it as an opportunity to take the cards that you have and create something even more spectacular.

Wishing you a beautiful day,

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


See the Beauty in Life

Did you ever go to a place where the weather was lousy and you were told if you don't like the weather, just wait 15 minutes?

well, my dears, I am here telling you the same about life. Once you realize that you have control over how you see your situation, then it can change, and get even better.

It is when we see the good in everything about where we are right now, that we can effect our future for the better, beginning with our attitude.

Once our attitude changes, so does our situation. So open your eyes, and see the beauty, and you'll be enveloped in it.

Oh, and don't forget to ask for what you want out of life. The cosmos are geared to deliver it to you.

Wishing you peace,

LeeZa Donatella
            Eat Pray Stay - Abadiania
           Eat Pray Stay Abadiania


Home is in the Heart

I am often in a new place every few weeks, but unlike most people, I don’t jolt my head up in bed wondering, ‘Where the heck am I.’ I guess it’s because I’ve lived this way, through both my corporate and writing careers that I am accustomed not sleeping in the same place for very long. It’s a lifestyle that I grew to love as I got to explore the world, for all my projects including those where I have had the opportunity to give back and volunteer to make the lives of others just a little better.  It seems like someone else’s life, when I think back to the last time I had solid roots in one place. Not many embrace my free and easy way of living and at times I miss the old me.

But I am a rare breed as I continue to search for that place where permanent roots feel like home.

I do know one thing, No matter where I am, because of the love that I have in my heart, a love that I share with all I meet, that wherever I lay my head, I am home.

Wishing you peace,


You Control Your Reaction

So it seems that the Mercury Retrograde is in full swing, with miscommunication, electronic glitches and delays. For those of you who are seeming to put your foot in your mouth, taking a few moments to think before speak and avoid those embarrassing moments.  If your computer is being testy, or if you’re on a project trying to deliver a system upgrade, take a breathe and breath out that frustration, knowing that it’s not you. Lastly for those of you traveling, take the expected delays in stride, since they are certainly out of your control. As for me, well, I got the triple crown with issues with all the above this 2014 October Mercury Retrograde.  

A perfect example as I arrived at my departure gate to catch a late flight for an early meeting the following morning, I discovered that the first leg of my trip was delayed. ‘I can still make the connection, I thought to myself,’ as I made my way to the counter to get a latte.  After about 2 hours, we started the boarding process. It was then that I received word that my connecting flight had been cancelled due to severe weather. I breathed in deeply then exhaled; the air slowly leaving my body through my nostrils, as the stress exited by body. I took a moment and came up with plan B and alternatives to manage expectations with the folks that would be waiting on me early the next morning. 

‘Thank goodness it wasn’t an interview with Good Morning America,’ I chuckled, not wanting to keep Matt Lauer waiting.

The gate crew was fabulous and apologized. I smiled telling them that it was not your fault as I mused,"Unless you;re controlling the weather."

Why was I so calm?

Well, my dears, there was a time, not too long ago, I might add, when I would have reacted much differently. Yes, I was inconvenienced, but I quickly put the situation into perspective. It was just an unpleasant situation. But no one was injured or died. So often I see people acting poorly when they experience minor inconveniences, like having to wait in line for more than 3 minutes for their morning triple venti caramel macchiato. 

Is it our fault that we overreact? 

In today's society it's considered normal now to rush through life without taking time to breathe. This all began with the computer technology explosion that began in the 80s and 90s. What used to take days to calculate or find, we now can gather using technology in seconds. The pace filtered into the corporate segment as we're pushed to our limit at work to deliver more and more in shorter timeframes. It moved into our personal lives as our patience has become almost non existent, getting agitated when the clerk spends a few extra seconds conversing with the customer in front of us.  And we filter that to our children. 

What has this change of pace gotten us? 
A live filled with stress that's not really living. That leads to a few things including serious physcial and mental illness. Did you know that the scientific community has labeled stress the number one cause of disease. 

I think that as a society we have all gotten spoiled and have forgotten what is really important. The world may be your oyster, but remember that the sun does not revolve around the Earth and the world does not revolve around you. So, stop taking it out on everyone else by stressing the small stuff.

The ONLY thing you CAN control is YOUR reaction. So, let it be one of peace and patience as you break the pattern of the person who has no time to stop and smell the roses. Remember this and you'll life more stress free.

Sending you peace and love this day and always,

LeeZa Donatella  

Have a day filled with love,


Attracting More Love into your life. It Begins with YOU!

From the very young to the very old, the US to Timbuktu, we're all looking for more love in our lives. 

Whether you want more enjoyable moments in your life or are looking for finding that special someone, in my book, the answer is always the same.  

Love is the highest most powerful emotion. And when you find the love, you vibrate it. And when you vibrate love, you attract love. No matter your situation, if you look at where you are right now and embrace, love and appreciate it, then you will find the love in it. 

Now you may be shaking your finger at me saying, 'But, LeeZa, I am in a bad way right now, how can I love where I am?'

Okay, let's talk about that. You may be unemployed, or dealing with a mound full of debt. Maybe you just broke up with someone, or perhaps you're homeless or you are not well.  

I have also been in all those situations throughout my life and I can tell you that from experience I took some time to feel sad, bad and sometimes I even felt utter despair from a situation I found myself in.  The difference is that I didn't dwell in that feeling for too long. 

After a short time, I brushed myself off and took an assessment of where I was at, how I got there and what I could find in the situation that I could love, even when I experienced a horrific time with Mr. Wrong.  I can tell you that once I found the positive, I stayed in that moment, embracing, loving and appreciating it.  Okay, so maybe it took more than that, but let me give you an example that you can relate to. I may have been up all night worrying about how I was going to pay my bills, but that gave me the opportunity to be up at dawn to see the beautiful sunrise. Once I saw the positive my situation changed. 

After decades of experience, I knew that it was time to share what I knew with others.
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I may have been ill and had major surgery, but I when I started appreciating the fact that the part of my body associated with the issue was really my wake-up call to reassess that area of my life, then I took the illness in stride as I regained my strength. 

I may have broken up with someone after investing years in the relationship, but once I was thankful that I was given the opportunity to spend more time working on myself, the quality of potential partners I attracted increased. 

I may have lost my place to live or the things I owned, but once I realized that I did not need much and that my change in living situation was the universe allowing me the freedom to travel without a lot of baggage, I saw things differently and gained the fortitude to move forward.

I hope that whatever you are going through you can embrace where you are in order to see the love. It begins with you!

Have a day filled with love,