Words can Hurt or Heal

Our reaction to what we say or the words that are spoken to us can have such power over us if we let them. That’s because negative words can hurt, biting into the very fabric of who we are. Positive words have the power to heal, feed the soul and uplift the recipient.

It is these words that alter existence and change the framework of our lives. I remember a situation many years ago when my girlfriend Eileen and I ventured off into Manhattan and were sitting in a small cafe having an espresso. I could overhear the conversation at another table where an agent was telling a young filmmaker that he should "throw in the towel." The agent’s words were harsh and the recipient looked miserable. When the agent left, I excused myself, went over and whispered a few words into the filmmaker’s ear, then returned to my table. words have the power to heal.

Forgive Those Who Victimize You

I believe that people who are miserable lash out at the world. It is related to ones energy and that energy is tied to one's emotional state. I also believe that all this has a direct correlation on the Mind, the Body and Spirit and what we attract into our lives.

As those of you who know me personally, it was a difficult time for me in late 2012 with an illness and the many life changes including divorce that I had that year that had me move to Sedona, AZ to connect and repair.  What you may not know is that during that vulnerable time in my life, I fell victim to a financial con from one of it's locals over a 3-month period. What I saw was someone who was down on their luck and offered them food, shelter and money to help him get back on his feet and move forward. After realizing that it was all a con, I finally stopped the financial bleeding. It was a costly financial and emotional lesson and although it was a period for me of great pain, it was also one of the most transformational in my life. You see, if this person had not played such a great role as the abuser, I would not have realized how strong I really was!  

Find Your Center: Ways to Regroup

There are times in all of our lives, that we feel as if we're spinning in some proverbial hamster wheel. I know that when I am feeling stuck I have to take time to reflect and regroup.  Now I do this by meditation without mantras or visuals. Perhaps you find this peace, this center in another way. As long as you do not rely on substances then you are on the right track.  

Substances distract, balance and center, attracts.

Once I find my center, my balance, that’s when things become very clear. And when things are clear, doors open.

I laugh when I think about all the little things I see out there that get people in a frenzy; a car moving just a little too slow in front of them during their morning commute; the cashier taking too long to return their change; a line at some store.

These things no longer bother me. But I do still get sucked into the middle of an energy storm, not knowing which way to turn. And that makes me question the dream. Actually, when I'm in the middle of this storm, I inwardly say, "It's only a dream, it's only a dream."


It's when I turn inward that I find peace. 

Try it, and you may find peace as well.

Blessings,
LeeZa Donatella

Author | International Inspirational Speaker

Living Life with Integrity

Having lived in Sedona, AZ and working with Masters around the globe, I've met some pretty amazing energy practitioners, healers and spiritualists.  I've also encountered charlatans, some very successful and some desperate for attention or money. 

I'll never forget when I was standing in a shop in Sedona one afternoon and overheard one of the men there booking a tour over the phone for a couple to find the hidden Sacred Medicine Wheel, the Ceremonial Tepee and Mystical Labyrinth. When he quoted the price at $500 for 2 hours, I almost lost my lunch. You see all these sacred areas are free to the public and are located behind the Walgreen's on Route 89A. It was then that I felt compelled to publish my article, Sedona Fakes and started filming all around town, posting free videos to YouTube about all the free things to do in Sedona.

Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain. It's when we strive to do our life's work in any modality and business with honesty and integrity that we're on the road to living a happy, successful existence. Most people know that the knot that they get in their stomachs as they steer off this path when they're doing something that's not in alignment with their true loving essence.  It's that knot that signifies a lower fear-based emotion, perhaps greed, envy or despair.

When you live with integrity, you gain the respect and trust of others, showing them that what you have to offer adds value. This brings you bigger and better opportunities as more people trust you. In the long run, the rewards built on integrity, values and actions are greater that you can possible imagine. From a vibrational frequency standpoint, people who live with integrity are vibrating higher as they epitomize what it means to be love.

I still am taken aback when I encounter liars and cheaters, what some term snake oil salesmen. I guess I still have work to do when it comes to compassion for all as I strive toward enlightenment.

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella

Higher Roads - Dealing with the Workplace and Office Politics Without Losing Your Mind

After over 30 years, I've been beaten down and pummeled by the corporate machine until there was nothing left but a bloody stump. As a hired gun for corporations, boy have I seen my share of the corporate jungle, with more juicy stories about those personalities and bad behavior then you can shake a stick at. But here I am vibratiing higher with more love and compassion then I know what to do with.

I'm working with editors to put the finishing touches on this new book geared toward helping readers navigate the workplace with ways to take the higher road when dealing with office politics, personalities and the situations that tie us in knots, bring us to tears and cause us fury, envy and disappointment. 

There's also a section that delves into techniques for reducing stress while at the work.

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The Best Way to Deal with Negative People

Protection from Negative People

I don't know about you, but I've certainly had my share over the years dealing with negative people, some I was related to, some I worked with, some I was in a relationship with and some, well I just don't know why I still associated with them, but who knows, perhaps it was because at one time I may have been a glutton for punishment.

A large percent of the population stay in a negative vibratory state, filled with negative beliefs and emotions, curling up in them like a comfortable worn-in blanket. This negativity makes the atoms of their cells vibrate lower. You see every atom in every cell in our body vibrates at a certain frequency, and ike a tuning fork or a key on the piano each emotion we experience has a different associate note effecting our body's overall pitch.

I get a lot of comments from readers stating that negativity feels like a plague, a virus that attacks one person and quickly spreads, like road rage on the highway. There is some truth to that statement. Negativity can wear on you personally if you allow it to invade your vibration,making you ill.  And negative people's main purpose, whether realized or not is to grab energy to make themselves feel better. They just don't know they're doing it at other's expense through lower vibrational means.

Now, you can certainly try and keep your associations with negative people to a minimum, but we all have times when we just can't avoid them at events and many everyday locations, so I don't think it's very practical.

Why not try this instead:
When I'm around negative vibrations, I do my best to stay in what I call "Being Love," a state filled with unconditional love and compassion which is a very high vibrational frequency. Here's an example that I share with my audiences to help put things into perspective: 

When you are around negative people, pretend that you are a graduate student studying higher mathematics and you're speaking with your niece who is in 1st grade. Would you get upset with her because she does not understand Differential Equations, or have compassion for her understanding that 1+1=2 is all the math she knows right now. Would you try and explain Differential Equations to her and expect her to understand her? That would be ridiculous, now wouldn't it! You would however have compassion for her frustration as she tries to complete her homework. And even though you can do it for her in 2 minutes you allow her to learn on her own.

When dealing with negative people, if you think of this story, you will NO LONGER react to the drama that they are attempting to create when you stay in that "Being Love" state that I refer to. Instead you will stay calm and have compassion as you allow them to learn on their own and not interfere. 

Not quite there yet? Do you get sucked into their drama when these people vent? That's okay, don't beat yourself up over it, knowing that you're not alone.

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
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Do not Take that Guilt Trip

I have a lot of people who reach out, overwhelmed with feelings of guilt. I’m not speaking about the kind of guilt that comes when you commit a crime and I could write pages about self-imposed guilt, for example, automatically feeling bad when called into your manager’s office, assuming you have done something wrong. Today’s article is about the guilt trips that others try and push on us.

What is a Guilt Trip?

Have you’ve ever been made to feel bad if you did not do something that you otherwise would not do, then you have experienced the dreaded guilt trip. This includes doing something when we're not feeling our best, going to places or events that we know we won’t enjoy as well as associating with people that you may not want to interact with. And because of the guilt trip we end up caving out of a feeling of obligation.

I've also heard some extreme cases in my time counseling people, like Susan whose incident struck a chord. Although this happened over 40 years ago when she was no more than 5, it still stands out in her mind. It was early one Sunday morning and Susan wasn't feeling well. She had no temperature, but her head was aching and she told her mother that she didn’t want to go to services that morning. Her mother swiftly turned and told this young girl that if she didn't get herself out of bed and go to services, that she was going to hell.

Speaking to so many adults with similar stories made me realize that what is learned as young children becomes part of our overall belief system that we carry like a tattered handbag throughout our lives. 

I can relate to the art of the perfectly placed guilt trip, growing up in an Italian household. I loved my mother, but the guilt trips, oh my goodness, they were dished out as frequently as the homemade pasta and sauce that Italian moms are famous for. For this sensitive kid, it was at times more than I could handle. This information and more about rising above it all is in my book, The State of Being Love. 

And it effected most of my young adult life as I continued to do things I didn’t enjoy because I was felt obligated to do so because of this guilt trip conditioning that I experienced in early youth.  

Doing something that you don’t want to do, well that’s ridiculous. Why should we as adults do things that we know that we won’t enjoy?  Yet we're conditioned to impose guilt on ourselves as if the people in our lives, like momma are still standing over us, even when they’re not.  Another big factor is that the emotion guilt vibrates much lower than other more pleasant emotions and is far down the list from Love, the emotion with the highest vibration of all

What Can You Do?.

Having had plenty of practice with this type of guilt, I decided back about 10 or 15 years ago that I no longer needed this experience. I think I’m old enough and wise enough to know when I won’t enjoy doing something. And if I am not going to enjoy something, I just don’t do it, period. And I don't feel one ounce of guilt based on my decision to only do what makes me happy.

If someone attempts to make me feel guilty, I just tell them, sorry, I don’t do guilt anymore. This may not make me miss popular, but I am definitely miss happier, vibrating higher as a result.  

So the next time someone attempts to guilt trip you, just smile, say no thanks and walk in the other direction, holding your head high and vibrating only love.

I hope this article serves you well as you rise above the guilt trip,

LeeZa Donatella

Sites:  www.leezadonatella,com

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