How to Change Worry and Fear to Joy and Happiness

I receive a lot of questions about how to live a life filled with joy and happiness. They come from people in all walks of life from around the globe who are currently consumed with sadness, despair, anger, hatred, self-doubt, worry and fear.  

Most people strive toward Joy and Happiness as if they're rewards or goals to be obtained. This is the problem. It’s like that proverbial carrot being dangled in front of us with the promise that if we do this or that then it will come to us some day

And there are plenty of companies trying to sell that dream of happiness on that some day formula as if it's external and something you can buy, like a new dress, the perfect body or luxury car.

The problem is that some day never comes. Why? Because some day is always in the futureThat's always been their formula to keep us buying into the dream, so let me tell you mine and see if that doesn’t resonate more with you.

LeeZa Donatella’s Happiness Formula
Find a moment, then another, then another where what you are doing makes you smile.

You accomplish this by taking a few seconds to ask yourself 1 question:
Is there is something that I want to do right now that will tickle my heart?

Then do it and take notice of the joy did you get from it?

A perfect example I have for right now is that I'm happy that I am inspired to write this article that I am sharing with all of you, but here are a few more of mine from this morning:
  • I found such joy in those extra few minutes I decided to stay curled up in bed, before my day got into full swing.
  • I sighed as I watched the sunrise, appreciating all the colors as they came into view.
  • I was grateful for the crispness of the early morning as I noticed a small chill at the tip of my nose
  • I got excited with that first sip of today's caramel macchiato as I took my time to savor the point where my lips met the cup sensing and feeling the warmth and relishing the flavor of the combination of milk, caramel and espresso in my mouth.

 Keep asking yourself that question all day and pretty soon, as you continue to string these moments together you day is full of happy little moments. You'll notice that when these out way all others, the shift begins.

Those of you who follow me, know that I speak about a state I call BEING LOVE. It’s a vibration much higher than sadness, despair, anger, hatred, self-doubt, worry and fear.  When you continue to do little things that get you there, then you like becomes that vibration, because BEING LOVE is filled with joy and happiness.

And with that comes the magic... A world more amazing then you can possibly imagine where synchronicity combines with opportunity!

Happiness starts now boys and girls, when you decide in this moment.

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
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Higher Roads - Dealing with the Workplace and Office Politics Without Losing Your Mind

After over 30 years, I've been beaten down and pummeled by the corporate machine until there was nothing left but a bloody stump. As a hired gun for corporations, boy have I seen my share of the corporate jungle, with more juicy stories about those personalities and bad behavior then you can shake a stick at. But here I am vibratiing higher with more love and compassion then I know what to do with.

I'm working with editors to put the finishing touches on this new book geared toward helping readers navigate the workplace with ways to take the higher road when dealing with office politics, personalities and the situations that tie us in knots, bring us to tears and cause us fury, envy and disappointment. 

There's also a section that delves into techniques for reducing stress while at the work.

Coming Late 2015/Early 2016

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The Best Way to Deal with Negative People

Protection from Negative People

I don't know about you, but I have certainly had my share over the years dealing with negative people, some I was related to, some I worked with, some I was in a relationship with and some, well I just don't know why I still associated with them, but who knows, perhaps it was because at one time I may have been a glutton for punishment.

A large percent of the population stay in a negative vibratory state, filled with negative beliefs and emotions, curling up in them like a comfortable worn-in blanket. This negativity makes the atoms of their cells vibrate lower. You see every atom in every cell in our body vibrates at a certain frequency, and ike a tuning fork or a key on the piano each emotion we experience has a different associate note effecting our body's overall pitch.

I get a lot of comments from readers stating that negativity feels like a plague, a virus that attacks one person and quickly spreads, like road rage on the highway. There is some truth to that statement. Negativity can wear on you personally if you allow it to invade your vibration,making you ill.  And negative people's main purpose, whether realized or not is to grab energy to make themselves feel better. They just don't know they're doing it at other's expense through lower vibrational means.

Now, you can certainly try and keep your associations with negative people to a minimum, but we all have times when we just can't avoid them at events and many everyday locations, so I don't think it's very practical.

Why not try this instead:
When I'm around negative vibrations, I do my best to stay in what I call "Being Love," a state filled with unconditional love and compassion which is a very high vibrational frequency. Here's an example that I share with my audiences to help put things into perspective: 

When you are around negative people, pretend that you are a graduate student studying higher mathematics and you're speaking with your niece who is in 1st grade. Would you get upset with her because she does not understand Differential Equations, or have compassion for her understanding that 1+1=2 is all the math she knows right now. Would you try and explain Differential Equations to her and expect her to understand her? That would be ridiculous, now wouldn't it! You would however have compassion for her frustration as she tries to complete her homework. And even though you can do it for her in 2 minutes you allow her to learn on her own.

When dealing with negative people, if you think of this story, you will NO LONGER react to the drama that they are attempting to create when you stay in that "Being Love" state that I refer to. Instead you will stay calm and have compassion as you allow them to learn on their own and not interfere. 

Not quite there yet? Do you get sucked into their drama when these people vent? That's okay, don't beat yourself up over it, knowing that you're not alone.

I get asked a lot about tools you can use for Protection.

How to Protect Yourself Against Negativity
There are several ways to protect against negative energy, negative people, negative spirits and well anything that is less than positive. I always use compassion, but vibrating higher is more difficult for others and they need tools to assist in getting there.  
  • One is to imagine being surrounded in a protection bubble. 
  • You can imagine a purple flame providing protection.
  • You can carry a talisman or black obsidian as they do in many cultures and religions
  • You can anoint yourself with a special oil blend to help increase your vibration to experience more of the love that you are.

 After working with oils for decades, this is the blend I have chosen to use in my energy, clearing and healing practice because of the specific significance each. It includes Rose, Sandalwood, Frankincense and Myrrh.

I use it when smudging and clearing and when I'm looking for strength when dealing with negative situations or for increasing positive energy and unconditional love.  

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Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
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Do not Take that Guilt Trip

I have a lot of people who reach out, overwhelmed with feelings of guilt. I’m not speaking about the kind of guilt that comes when you commit a crime and I could write pages about self-imposed guilt, for example, automatically feeling bad when called into your manager’s office, assuming you have done something wrong. Today’s article is about the guilt trips that others try and push on us.

What is a Guilt Trip?
If you’ve ever been made to feel bad if you did not do something that you otherwise would not do, then you have experienced the dreaded guilt trip. This includes doing something when.we are not feeling our best, going to places or events that you know you won’t enjoy as well as associating with people that you may not want to interact with. And because of the guilt trip we end up caving out of a feeling of obligation.

And I've heard some extreme cases in my time counseling people, like Susan whose incident struck a chord. Although this happened over 40 years ago when she was no more than 5, it still stands out in her mind. It was early one Sunday morning and Susan wasn't feeling well. She had no temperature, but her head was aching and she told her mother that she didn’t want to go to services that morning. Her mother swiftly turned and told this young girl that if she didn't get herself out of bed and go to services, that she was going to hell.

Speaking to so many adults with similar stories made me realize that what is learned as young children becomes part of our overall belief system that we carry like a tattered handbag throughout our lives. 

I can relate to the art of the perfectly placed guilt trip, growing up in an Italian household. I loved my mother, but the guilt trips, oh my goodness, they were dished out as frequently as the homemade pasta and sauce that Italian moms are famous for. For this sensitive kid, it was at times more than I could handle. 

And it effected most of my young adult life as I continued to do things I didn’t enjoy because I was felt obligated to do so because of this guilt trip conditioning that I experienced in early youth.  

Doing something that you don’t want to do, well that’s ridiculous. Why should we as adults do things that we know that we won’t enjoy?  Yet we're conditioned to impose guilt on ourselves as if the people in our lives, like momma are still standing over us, even when they’re not.  Another big factor is that the emotion guilt vibrates much lower than other more pleasant emotions and is far down the list from Love, the emotion with the highest vibration of all

What Can You Do?.
Having had plenty of practice with this type of guilt, I decided back about 10 or 15 years ago that I no longer needed this experience. I think I’m old enough and wise enough to know when I won’t enjoy doing something. And if I am not going to enjoy something, I just don’t do it, period. And I don't feel one ounce of guilt based on my decision to only do what makes me happy.

If someone attempts to make me feel guilty, I just tell them, sorry, I don’t do guilt anymore. This may not make me miss popular, but I am definitely miss happier, vibrating higher as a result.  

So the next time someone attempts to guilt trip you, just smile, say no thanks and walk in the other direction, holding your head high and vibrating only love.

I hope this article serves you well as you rise above the guilt trip,

LeeZa Donatella
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How to Create a Good Outcome from a Potentially Bad Situation

We are born with unconditional love that's evident as it sparkles in our eyes. And as we grow we experience the wonder of the world. Then we get close to experiencing something that can hurt us, like running toward the street and it happens, we're spanked. We are too young to realize that we may get hit by a car, but nonetheless it's at that moment that we're taught that an incredible experience like runnng free is associated with pain and punishment.  It is every experience that shapes us into the person we are and those few experiences that were meant to protect us also instill a disproportionate amount of fear in us that we carry with us throughout our lives. 

I decided years back to analyze and process these long ago unpleasant experiences and decided to treat them differently. Now I look upon all experiences as gifts no matter what.

When one does this they move into that uncharted territory, a state of being or vibration that I call "Being Love."  When you love every situation and person unconditionally and are grateful for the interaction, that's when the true magic happens.

A perfect example has to do with a last minute trip I took to attend a class in Des Moines. I used one of those booking sites and landed a budget hotel under $100 that also had a shuttle service. My first clue that something was amiss was when I arrived at the airport close to midnight, called the hotel for their shuttle and was told that the service ceased as of the prior week. My gut was tingling when I entered the hotel lobby at 1AM to find people at the front desk complaining that the air conditioning in their rooms was not working. When I finally got to my room and discovered that the Internet was also not operational, I scratched my head and shrugged my shoulders as I professed out loud, "I guess this is not where I am supposed to stay, but I'm sure that there is something even more wonderful waiting for me."  
The above is one of the key phrases I use when I'm faced with an unpleasant situation instead of reacting with frustration, anger or any other negative lower emotion.  I viewed the experience as a gift, keeping my vibration in that "Being Love" state. I went downstairs and graciously told the front desk that I was going to seek other accommodations, having only compassion for the clerk as I gave him the news. He was very apologetic and gave me a few suggestions as he handed me the house phone. I called over to one of the more expensive hotels in the area that I had passed up because their rate was over $220 per night. I was upbeat as I explained my situation in the nicest way possible and asked if they could accommodate me.

So, what happened?

The new hotel came and got me in their shuttle as I walked out of the current hotel free of any charges. I was provided with a better room for under $100 per night (less than 50% of their advertised rate) and upon check-in the clerk went into the back returning with 2 chilled bottles of water, apologizing to me for my inconvenience. To make my stay there even more scrumptious, he waived the Internet fees and put me on the concierge level which had bigger more posh rooms. As I plopped myself on that luxurious bed, I smiled, knowing how amazing things can happen when you stay in the "Being Love" state. 

I'm not sure if life is a test of how we react to situations to move forward, or just that sometimes things just happen. 

What I do know that we create what we believe and when we truly know in our heart that every unpleasant occurrence has a great outcome, then the magic happens as we create better situations, more amazing then we can imagine. And in my experience, the more we believe it, the more instantaneous they appear.

Wishing you a delicious day,
LeeZa Donatella
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Seeing Energy and the Aura

I often teach a full day class on energy, and in part of the class I help people see the bodies energy, generally called the aura.

It always tickles me when someone who at the beginning of the day has no idea what energy is by the end of the day understands it, feels it then sees the etheric body.  It's really not difficult with a little guidance and practice to see this first layer (etheric) since it is the closest energy body to the physical body. The etheric layer extends about two inches beyond the physical body and is my cue when I am looking at someone in a healing session for clues to where they're out of balance.   

For those of you who haven't yet seen what I am referring to, you'll find that after you get yourself into a meditative state and are in that peace if you relax your gaze, you may just see your energy and the energy of others around you.

Often when I teach this class I have at least 1 student who is frustrated because they want to see colors. "How do I see the aura?" they often ask.

Actually it is all the aura, but what these people are referring to is the second layer of the aura, the emotional body, which is associated with feelings. Unlike the etheric body this layer has as many colors as the rainbow. And the colors change depending on the emotional state of the person.  

For those of you who see energy, but do not yet see color other than the yellow/gray glow of the etheric layer, please don't fret. Be happy where you are right now. In time all becomes apparent as we grow and develop. 

Sending you blessings and love

LeeZa Donatella
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How to Connect to your Higher Self

As promised to the many of you who have emailed me asking about connections to the higher self, today I will explain higher self connections or what some call the connection to our total spirit. 

What is the higher self?
This has always been such an interesting topic for me and I love to share what I know with all of you. If you've found this article then you already know that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Well, our spirit or energy or whatever name you have for it is pure love. And Love energy has the highest vibration. Frankly, if we were to bring more than a small bit of it into the human form, our bodies would explode because the vibration is just too high. So we have a piece of our essence in our physical body and the majority of it outside the body. This is what we connect to when we connect to what's called the "higher self."

Why aren’t we always connected to the higher self?
Now there is the question, because if we were always connected, it would be Heaven on Earth indeed. I won't say that a person cannot achieve a 24/7 100% connection at some point in their time here on Earth, but when we can connect 100% of the time, we probably would not still be here on Earth. So maybe the Christ or the Buddha was able to do this.  It's certainly something worth striving for. Even if you connect to your higher self 40% of each day, that is greater than 99% of the population.  Imagine feeling complete bliss 40% of each day. Wow!

So how do I connect with my Higher Self?
There is not just one way to connect. The most common way for the people I have coached over the years is to first get into a meditative state. If you are new to meditation there are many guided meditation CDs out there and one day soon I will be offering one for you all as well. Pick one that is about 15-20 minutes long that asks you to ground yourself as part of the meditation. At the beginning of the meditation make your intention known that you want to connect to your higher self. As you get grounded and open up your crown chakra you will begin to feel the connection.

How does it feel when you are connected?
When our inner energy source connects to the universal energy source, it's a feeling of complete bliss and calm where all is peace and love.  I get a delicious tingling wave that overtakes my body when I'm in that place where I am connected with my higher self. What a rush! I call this being “In the Zone.” You may also feel that sensation or you may just get the overwhelming feeling of peace and harmony that's always present.  Once practiced, you will find that you don’t need to perform a traditional meditation to connect. I can look upon a sunrise or sunset or landscape and appreciate how absolutely beautiful it is and presto I am instantly connected. 

So what CAN you do when you are connected?

I often get this question about what we can do when we are connected. When you are connected you have profound clarity and insight. There was this movie called Limitless where someone used a drug to get this insight. That is not necessary, since you can get there on your own. During this state you can gain universal information or ask for anything just stating what it is that you want, know that it is possible for you to have it, and that you deserve what you are asking for. 

I hope that you all enjoyed today’s post. With over 300 articles in Spiritual Spew I'm sure that you will find what you are looking for. so check out the archives.    

The Awakening  has several references to higher self connections throughout this delicious steamy novel that fans of 50 Shades of Grey will enjoy reading. (It's about Mia, a young woman who moved to Sedona after the end of a relationship to reconnect to her spiritual roots. What she found was her strength, supernatural occurrences and a man who would change her world, forever.)  Click here to peak inside. 

Sending you blessings and love

LeeZa Donatella
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I Just Want To Be Held - Am I Normal?

Sometimes I just want to be held. I miss being held. Is something wrong with me because I crave being held? I need to be held, wanting to be held and touched, why do I want to be held 
In my work I often am approached by single people with statements like, "I'm having so much agony with one thing about being alone... I just want to be held. Why do I crave being held so much?  Does anyone feel this as strongly as I do?"

These people preface this statement with the fact that they're not looking for a relationship, but miss that simple human contact of being held for an extended period of time and nothing more. Over the years in my interactions with other masters, I have heard different theories about this like: 

  • You don't need anyone else and that you are already whole, so accept it move on. 
  • You must find peace within yourself
  • Wanting to be held is some problem and you should seek professional help.
I do not necessarily agree. Although it's true that people seek out comfort in others when they are down, others who are not down, depressed, but mentally healthy and whole just miss human contact when they are not in a relationship or have children at home. I believe the wanting of human touch is perfectly normal and one of the incredible parts of our human experience. Touch and intimacy are absolutely necessary for survival. We all deserve to have these needs met by others and trying to convince ourselves that this need is not necessary by labeling the lack of it as being independent is ridiculous. 

So if you're experiencing this feeling, then I am glad you found this article today. You are normal and deserve that touch you miss. I think it's sad that we're living in such a technical society where our interactions, including the way we date today are mostly limited to electronic means. With so little actual human interaction, no wonder why more people crave more touch.  

The good thing about my time in Sedona is that I learned how to provide those long heart hugs, the ones that last over a minute without any feelings of awkwardness.  And they are freely provided to all. I start out my sessions with these long heart hugs and ensure that all feel that love, touch and connection that they may be lacking.   

By the way,The Awakening  has several references about the need to being held throughout this delicious steamy novel that fans of 50 Shades of Grey will enjoy reading. (It's about Mia, a young woman who moved to Sedona after the end of a relationship to reconnect to her spiritual roots. What she found was her strength, supernatural occurrences and a man who would change her world, forever.) Click here to peak inside. 

Wishing you a day filled with love,

LeeZa Donatella

Stay in a State of Being Love

I get asked a lot how to maintain that Love Vibration, that state of "Being Love."
"Oh, that's not easy to keep that up," I often hear.

"Really?" I respond. "Well why not?"

"It's just too much work," most often is the reply.
Well, darlings, let me give you an example of the difference between Being Love and not and you tell me what seems like more work.

Example of Being Love
Waking up, feeling good, thinking about nothing but that moment and smiling, singing and going about your day, greeting everyone you meet.

Example of NOT Being Love
Waking up, feeling awful,  thinking about who said something that made you feel bad yesterday, grimacing, complaining and going about your day, ready to rip someone's head off.

Okay, so which seems like more work?

LeeZa Donatella

Create the Life you Deserve - Warszawa July 18-19, 2015

I am so excited to be speaking in Warsaw (Warszawa) Poland July 18-19 lecturing about how to live a life full of joy creating the abundant life that you deserve. 

We all have the ability to live this way. And we can begin that life right now. 

Through many hands on exercises, in this 2 day workshop we will explore energy opening participants to more possibilities. I teach you how to delve into the beliefs and emotions that are holding us back and guide you as you determine the life that you want to create. 

17.VII.2015 (piątek), godz. 19:00 (Free Talk)

18 - 19.VII.2015 10:00 - 18:00 (Workshop)
Location: Al. Niepodległości 162, 02-554 Warsaw, Poland

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Wishing you a day of creating the life you want,
LeeZa Donatella



I get a lot of questions about living a life full of what you desire. Funny, but when I speak to clients about what they want and we collectively delve into what they have tried in the past, a pattern emerges.  More often then not, people either have no idea what they really want or approach what they want from a place of "lack," meaning that they do not believe that what they want is possible to achieve. Or they have big dreams, but take no action.

It's movies that talk about Secrets and laws to attract what you want, but they never tell you the how. And they tell you about thinking all the time.

But if you don't believe that it's possible and really feel that something is not obtainable, then you are not going to see it. There is also a vibrational frequency that I call the Being Love sate of being that you have to match when you want something that will bring you the positive result that you are seeking, what I teach people in my Life in Abundance lectures. It's a process that begins with understanding how everything is energy and how that relates to our bodies energy, what we vibrate and create. 

Wishing you a day of creating what you want,