BAM - Kick your Vibration Up a Notch

Well into the new millennium, more and more people are finding out about energy, vibration and universal laws of attraction.  

So what about vibration?

Everything in the Universe vibrates at one speed or another, even us. 

I was very young when I came across this quote by Nikola Tesla: 

'If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of 
energy, frequency and vibration.'

Okay so you vibrate, what's that about?
Yes, it's true that the water in our bodies has a vibration and the every atom in each of our cells vibrate. It is also true that our emotions, or state of being impacts our vibration. Let me say this again, loud and clear:

"Your emotional state impacts your personal vibration."

It just may be enough for some to realize that what you feel has a direct impact on the vibrational signature that you are sending the world, and beyond.  And just by reading the above bolded statement may alter your perception and your life from this point forward. 

Why do we Care?
How we feel impacts the life we live in more than just a I'm having a bad day sort of way. When you're not in a blissful, joyous state, you're only attracting less than joyous experiences to you. 

I just love Emeril Lagasse's signature statement, BAM!    

Universally the BAM is when we add that extra pinch of enthusiasm and joy to our day. What we get is a world filled with deliciousness.  The more your emotional state shifts toward joy, the lighter you feel in all aspects of you mind, body and spirit. And with that comes a greater sense of self, purpose, personal power, clarity and peace. 

Increase your Vibration
Take a few steps everyday to change your emotional state of being to increase your vibration and your joy:
  • Before you get out of bed, wake up and smile, feel the pillow and appreciate your comfort.
  • Start the day with a song you love. Don't worry if you sing off key. It's just you.
  • Go out side for 5 minutes and walk barefoot in the grass, even in winter. Your connection to the earth will ground you. 
  • Drink more clean water 
  • Do or say something nice to all you meet throughout your day. Random acts of kindness lighten our hearts
  • Take time each day to mediate. Clear your mind, walk in nature if you are able.
  • Turn off to anything negative that you see on TV or social media. It does not serve you, so do not let it infiltrate your deliciousness.
  • Be grateful for what you have and where you are right now in your physical space and your body.

LeeZa Donatella


Smudging for Health and Happiness

At this point I think most if not all of us have heard about smudging. When I speak to folks, if they have never heard the term smudging, they have heard of people burning sage. Well, this is smudging, and it's a way to purify a location, an object or a person by burning sacred plants.

We get the term smudging from the Native American culture who traditionally smudged as the initialization of many of their ceremonies, but almost every culture and religion has used their own form of cleansing for centuries.

Smudging Materials
When people today think about smudging, they typically envision white sage leaves bound with string into a small bundle, called a smudge stick. Depending on your intentions and culture, there are also many other plants, herbs, resins and oils used to clear and cleanse in addition to White Sage, like  Cedar, Frankincense, Juniper, Mugwort, Myrrh, Palo Santo, and Sweetgrass, each having their own specific significance

When to Smudge
As an inspirational speaker and author of several books, specifically, The State of Being Love, I explain the benefits of smudging as a way to raise one's vibration.The rule of thumb is to smudge if you're feeling uneasy in your space, down or just off. Smudge will help you feel lighter as it assists in  
  • Lifting your mood
  • Assisting with healing (smudging has been proven to kill airborne bacteria)
There are many other reasons to smudge which include:
  • Full Moon for letting go and New Moon for new beginnings
  • When you first move into a home or apartment
  • With the change of seasons (Smudge as part of spring cleaning)
  • When you begin a new job or business
  • Before and after a healing session
  • Before you meditate
  • After a breakup
  • After negative guests enter leave your home.
  • After an argument with your loved ones or work associates

Smudging Supplies: 
The below is what I have handy in my smudging tool kit, each with specific spiritual significance.
  • A smudge stick 
  • A lighter or candle
  • A shell or dish 
  • Salt (I prefer pure Himalayan salt)
  • Anointing Oil (I use a mix with Rose oil, since Rose has a very high vibration.)

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Meeting the Texas Tenors

I'm a big lover of music, one of the very fabrics of vibration and frequency that touches our hearts and souls in so many ways. As most of you who follow me know, I speak about being happy and the correlation of one’s emotional state of being and what they attract into their lives.

I share with you my experience with the 3 talented men with the most delicious voices, known are the Texas Tenors. 

It was just before 8 pm when I walked up to a filled venue, tickled to be able to obtain the last single VIP seat in the house, a center front row view for the evening performance.  

Their voices resonated through the crowd as they sang their first selection, my heart filled with the notion that I was certainly in for a wonderful evening. Their range was excellent and well, they can sing pretty much any musical genre.  It had me thinking that their must be something in Texas water to produce such fine voices. 

As I mention so often, you attract your emotional equivalent and I was elated as they gifted me a CD, then blown away when Marcus came off the stage to hold my hand during one of their songs.

I believe that we all have a purpose in life and whatever reason that brought these fine musicians together, each distinctly has a voice that resonates within us as a different harmonization for awakenings. 

They all touched different awakening centers in the body. It was through their voices that John helped me connect with my inner strength, Marcus helped me once again find my voice and JC opened my heart.

Sending the Texas Tenors blessings and best wishes for a continued bright future. 

LeeZa Donatella


Focus on the Present

Living in a society with early wake-ups, work and family, rarely do we get the opportunity to sleep in and have the feeling of no cares in the world. Or do we?

Ah, I used to relish Saturday mornings when I was young, sighing into those early morning moments, with not a care nor or chore, just being still and staring at the ceiling completely in the moment.
Have you ever woken up with such a scrumptious feeling that you did not want to get out of bed? 
These days, I awake almost everyday with that same lusciousness that seems to carry me most moments through nightfall. I find this a great change in my life regardless of the time I awaken, the work I perform or the interactions I have.  As I look back on similar thoughts that I have written just a few short years ago, I see how far I have come. 

I am at peace as I focus on the present, no agenda, no worries, just the sweetness of life. The sun rises and peeks into my windows in the morning and I roll over inhaling the new day's beauty, smiling with the notion that I can hug the pillow and sigh with delight as I gently closed my eyes for a few more moments and take in that deliciousness for my day begins. 

These kinds of mornings inspire me to write, to smile and feel.  When I venture outside I am so filled with Love that I share it with all I meet. 

The nights are just as magical as I find the wonder in the darkness. 
It's a new day, a new beginning, a blessing when we focus on the present and live in that moment. 

Let it be a day filled with love that fills your heart with every breath you take!

Sending you love,

LeeZa Donatella


Rise About Guilt

I have a lot of people who reach out, overwhelmed with feelings of guilt. Today’s article is specifically about the guilt trips that others try and push on us.

Below is an excerpt from my recent book, The State of Being Love

What is a Guilt Trip?
If you’ve ever been made to feel bad if you did not do something that you otherwise would not do, then you have experienced the dreaded guilt trip. This includes doing something when.we are not feeling our best, going to places or events that you know you won’t enjoy as well as associating with people that you may not want to interact with. And because of the guilt trip we end up caving out of a feeling of obligation.

Over the years, I've heard some extreme cases counseling people, like Susan whose incident struck a chord. Although this happened over 40 years ago when she was no more than 5, it still stands out in her mind. It was early one Sunday morning and Susan wasn't feeling well. She had no temperature, but her head was aching and she told her mother that she didn’t want to go to services that morning. Her mother swiftly turned and told this young girl that if she didn't get herself out of bed and go to services, that she was going to hell.

Speaking to so many adults with similar stories made me realize that what is learned as young children becomes part of our overall belief system that we carry like a tattered handbag throughout our lives. 

I can relate to the art of the perfectly placed guilt trip, growing up in an Italian household. I loved my mother, but the guilt trips, oh my goodness, they were dished out as frequently as the homemade pasta and sauce that Italian moms are famous for. For this sensitive kid, it was at times more than I could handle. 

And it effected most of my young adult life as I continued to do things I didn’t enjoy because I was felt obligated to do so because of this guilt trip conditioning that I experienced in early youth.  

Doing something that you don’t want to do, well that’s ridiculous. Why should we as adults do things that we know that we won’t enjoy?  Yet we're conditioned to impose guilt on ourselves as if the people in our lives, like momma are still standing over us, even when they’re not.  Another big factor is that the emotion guilt vibrates much lower than other more pleasant emotions and is far down the list from Love, the emotion with the highest vibration of all

What Can You Do?.
Having had plenty of practice with this type of guilt, I decided back about 10 or 15 years ago that I no longer needed this experience. I think I’m old enough and wise enough to know when I won’t enjoy doing something. And if I am not going to enjoy something, I just don’t do it, period. And I don't feel one ounce of guilt based on my decision to only do what makes me happy.

If someone attempts to make me feel guilty, I just tell them, sorry, I don’t do guilt anymore. This may not make me miss popular, but I am definitely miss happier, vibrating higher as a result.  

So the next time someone attempts to guilt trip you, just smile, say no thank you and walk in the other direction, holding your head high and vibrating only love.

I hope this article serves you well as you rise above the guilt trip.

LeeZa Donatella


You cannot Live until you Forgive

When we let people in, whether it be with family, friends or physical partners we drop the barriers, giving them a glimpse inside us.  It’s when we let down our guard, that we are at our most vulnerable, giving our trust to another. Most times, what we gain are positive experiences, like the sharing of loving expressions, mutual energy, and an unlimited potential of positive growth. 

But like those few gems that we have met in our lifetimes, so too exist those unsavory characters that when we interact with them, betray our trust and we fall, victim.  
Over the years I have met so many people who have been physically assaulted, sexually violated, mentally abused and others being taken financially.  I can relate to each one of them because during my life, I have also been victim to physical assault, sexual and mental abuse and have been taken financially by people that I had given my trust.
I’ve put my fingers to keyboard to write this article many times, never quite ready to complete and publish it. I felt ashamed. I didn’t want people to discover that I was a victim, almost as if that were a crime.  

I spent more time analyzing the fact that the shame, an emotion at the opposite end of the spectrum of what a victim should feel stayed with me 10 times longer than any other emotion I had about the situation.  I discovered that it was a belief solidified decades ago. After releasing this false belief, I just shake my head that I spent even 1 minute living in shame based on what someone else did to me!

So What’s Next
What should we do when we have been mistreated?  Close down? Shut out the world?  Never trust again?

Over the decades, I think I’ve tried all the above, no one better than another. What I gleaned is like with all things, every experience while we are here helps us gain perspective and allows us to grow, even the ones we view as horrendous.  Although we are oblivious to it while enduring the ordeal, what I have taken away from every one of these unpleasant encounters, especially in adulthood, is that they always came at points in my life when I was ready for that next big growth spurt, each situation driving me onward with more courage, strength and resilience than I ever thought I had.

And what about forgiveness? How does one forgive the unforgivable?
Whether it be fear that he or she will break down the door and attack you, take you against your will, use tactics to disorient and belittle you, or outright steal funds that you worked so very hard to obtain, you cannot live until you forgive, the pain in whatever fear based emotion eating away at your insides until they are raw. Never forget that forgiveness always includes both your abuser as well as yourself.

Today, I share with other victims, admitting that I trusted, that trust was betrayed, I rose above shame, forgave and am open to trust again. I am strong and stand tall. I am a voice to others out there who have been mistreated, my head held high.  

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
Website: Leeza Donatella


Lighten Up! Your body and spirit will thank you

Have you ever lost sleep over some thought or situation? 

“Hey, man that's heavy” may show my age, but it it's what I commonly heard when I would provide a deep analytical explanation for something I examined that weighed on my mind. At times I would lose sleep over worrying about this or that or come to conclusions when the outcome of a situation was not yet determined. What I discovered is that allow things to weigh on us can actually have a physical effect on our health. 

I'm sure you've all blown up balloons for a birthday party.  Replace the air (Nitrogen (N2), Oxygen (O2), Carbon Dioxide (CO2) and Water (H2O)) with helium and it starts to ascend. It's just science since the element helium plus the weight of the balloon is lighter than the air it displaces, allowing the balloon to float.

Imagine now that your body is a balloon that can only be inflated so much. Today, when I catch myself dissecting and over investigating an experience or I feel the heaviness of life in general, I have to tell myself, "Get out of your head and lighten up!  Life is only an agreed upon experience."

With these words the heaviness falls away, making room for my lighter substance, that divine energy to fill cavities that were previously filled with the heaviness of what I was scrutinizing and carrying around. 

If some of you are having an aha moment from reading this simple analogy with an overarching much bigger meaning, then know that I am smiling. 

Next time you're feeling heavy, think of your balloon. If you want to ascend, then lighten up man!

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
Website: Leeza Donatella

The Celestine Prophecy - A Fresh Look

I stumbled across the movie The Celestine Prophecy last night as I opened Prime on my laptop. It was hard to miss, actually, right in front of my nose on the Amazon banner. I rarely ignore those opportunities to listen to my intuition these days, so I watched it. It was a reminder to me of how far I have come in my search for answers on living a life in the state of Being Love, since I read this book in the 90's before an extended trip to Peru. At the end of the film, there was a concise summary of the initial 9 Insights, that I am sharing with you.

1. Synchronicity: We are discovering again that we live in a deeply mysterious world, full of sudden coincidences and synchronistic encounters that seem destined.
2. Spiritual Design: As more of us awaken to this mystery, we will create a completely new world view – redefining the universe as energetic and sacred.
3. Subtle Energy:  We will discover that everything around us, all matter, consists of and stems from a divine energy that we are beginning to see and understand.
4.  Competition for Energy: From this perspective, we can see that humans have always felt insecure and disconnected from the sacred source, and have tried to take energy by dominating each other. This struggle is responsible for all human conflict.
5. Spiritual Connection: The only solution is to cultivate a personal reconnection with the divine, a mystical transformation that fills us with unlimited energy and love, extends our perception of beauty, and lifts us into Higher-Self Awareness.
6.  Getting Clear: In this awareness, we release our own pattern of controlling, and discover a specific truth, a mission, we are here to share that helps evolve humanity toward this new level of reality.
7.  Follow your Intuition: In pursuit of this mission, we can discover an inner intuition that shows us where to go and what to do, and if we make only positive interpretations, brings a flow of coincidences that opens doors for our mission to unfold.
8.  Giving Energy Increases Our Synchronistic Experiences: When enough of us enter this evolutionary flow, always giving energy to the higher-self or everyone we meet, we will build a new culture where our bodies evolve to ever higher levels of energy and perception.
9. Conscious Evolution: In this way, we participate in the long journey of evolution from the Big Bang to life’s ultimate goal: to energize our bodies, generation by generation, until we walk into a heaven we can finally see.
There are actually 12 Insights over three books that James Redfield has published over the past 20 years. I enjoy his style of writing and feel that people are guided to this book as part of that divine energy that it references. 
Blessings and love,
LeeZa Donatella
Website: Leeza Donatella


Control and Spirituality

A friend was disappointed and deeply hurt with the way someone close to them had behaved.

The advise that I shared with them was the following:

You cannot control the way that others behave. The only thing you have control over is your reaction and behavior, so getting upset over someone else's shortcomings does not serve you.

People come into your life for various reasons. Sometimes the dance lasts a few minutes, sometimes a lifetime.

I know that every experience is a gift and I'm always so grateful for the interaction, even when it initially appears as if the outcome is not what I wanted or expected. Once the experience is complete I know that one or both of us has learned and grown from it. And sometimes these experiences are just for us to learn more about our own triggers.

Blessings and love,
LeeZa Donatella
Website: Leeza Donatella


Rediscovering Simple Pleasures through Our Interactions with Children

For those who know me personally, I do not have children but am blessed with wonderful nieces and nephews that are decades apart. Hey it is the American family after all! 

No matter what you're doing in your life, where you've been, if you are up,  down or sideways,  how much money, power and prestige you have, all that goes out the window when playing a virtual game of eye-spy over the phone with a young person.  Especially when she is kicking your butt!

It's the young that remind us of what's important in life! And that's to find the fun and amazement in all our experiences. Think back to a time when you had no cares, no worries and  no responsibility. Growing up on the water, I think I was five years old when I remember my first time at the beach,  the feeling of the sand between my toes,  the smell of the ocean, the brisk temperature of the water as I tried to outrun the seagulls down the shore line. Everything seemed so amazing!

Now wouldn’t it be great if we could bottle some of that? Yeah I know, they called it dropping acid in the 60's, I think. But today, if we could just get more glimpses of that feeling, wow, how cool would that be? 
I am here to tell you that it can all be yours darling.  As we remember that we are beings filled with LOVE all of life can be that delicious!

It is that amazement that I feel every morning when I wake up in magical Sedona, with scenery dripping with beauty.  All right, I can be sappy, but, gee, what a glorious feeling it is to wake up blissful and in awe.  Give it a try! 
I have to tell you that it doesn’t suck!

Wishing you a day filled with Love,

LeeZa Donatella


How People Treat You

When I write about "Being Love" I talk about why so many feel the need to live in misery, wrapping themselves up in it like a tattered old blanket. They do this because they know nothing else and that misery is comfortable. They blame everyone for their own shortcomings, not realizing that the circumstances with which they find themselves are a product of their own lack of love.  Anger, rage and hatred are emotions that will only keep one from finding the love. Once you learn the difference you find the freedom from that misery and can take the next steps forward. 

This morning I was reminded of why we are on this Earth. It's to work with the love within, to let it grow, and let it blossom. We are all on a journey to find this love. It sometimes comes in old lessons revisited. When we change our reaction to that of love, we are showered with the most amazing life. 

Those of us, regardless of our circumstances, who has hurt us, lied to us or about us, taken us for granted or abused us, continue to forgive. It is the path to enlightenment.

So the next time someone comes toward you with hatred, anger and all that is not in the State of Being Love, remember this the only thing that you have control over is your reaction. Forgive them, have only compassion for them. For they are still living in the misery. 

Blessings and love,
LeeZa Donatella
Website: Leeza Donatella

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The State of Being Love

It is a state of Being Love, that begins with "Self Love." It guides you through life when you realize that there are only 2 emotions, love and that which is not love, then you get it. 

I am often asked, 'What is the State of Being Love?'   

Once you know that you ARE Love, well, then every experience becomes love as you realize that it is just as easy to live life as the joyous song that it is.

It is that deliciousness that is unparalleled by anything else. It is that inner feeling of peace; the first breath of cold air in the morning that bathes your lungs in crispness as you watch the sunrise and that sigh as you see it set. Love is the euphoric feeling as the scrumptious fragrance of life infiltrates your nostrils. The world seems to bend to your hearts desires, where sadness is a faint memory.

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella


Dating: Do not Hide the Real You

Today's topic is about being forthcoming when dating. Many an article I have written in past years has spoken about taking time between relationships, evaluating where you are, and working on yourself. You have all heard me say that 2 halves do not make a whole, but instead are 2 dysfunctional persons trying to complete themselves through another.

But what happens when you are whole, with the strength of a lion, and you happen to be female? Strong women do not need to be with someone, they choose to out of a desire to share incredible life moments. Like some of you strong women who have written to me, I have a past record of being pretty horrible at dating myself, intimidating some potential partners with what I've done.

Should a strong woman be forthcoming on all that they are, risking that most will run the other way?  If they hold back, they may get more dates, but at what compromise?

I recently had dinner with someone who in the middle of the conversation said, “With all that you have accomplished, why do you need someone?” My response was a little flippant as I nonchalantly flicked my hand up in the air, “For the sex, drugs and rock and roll, of course.”  He didn’t understand my quick wit, and asked what drugs I use. I rolled my eyes before putting my hand to my mouth, now having to explain the comment and that I was not a drug user, all the time thinking why did I say yes to this date.

I found myself in quiet contemplation this morning on this subject about being forthcoming.  The answer came in the lyrics of a song from Frozen called Let it Go

Don't let them in, don't let them see,
Be the good girl you always have to be
Conceal, don't feel, don't let them know,
Well now they know Let it go, let it go,
Can't hold it back anymore.

You should never hide your true self from the world. 

In dating be yourself, embrace your uniqueness and strength. Potential partners who are intimidated by a strong woman are not the ones that would make for long lasting relationships filled with the substance and depth that your mind and spirit require.  

LeeZa Donatella


Always Learning Growing and Breaking Through

The way I am guided is at times harsh with extreme opportunities for positive growth, at times prophetic with the right words that move me forward written on a chalk board when I am searching for answers and other times comical. It was a recent Saturday morning and I was to rise early and attend a half day Vipassana silent meditation. Alas, it was cancelled. I decided instead to spend that time in my place, sitting in my hanging chair in quiet meditation. As I sat comfortably legs folded, I found myself on the ground, as the bolt holding it somehow got unscrewed. Nothing was hurt, not even my pride, as I meekly laughed out loud trying not to add to the loud noise that had already roused neighbors at dawn on a well-deserved day off from the hustle and bustle after a long work week.

I looked up to the ceiling professing, “Yeah that was subtle." Was I talking to anyone but myself? Who knows, but I sat on the couch knowing that there was apparently something else that I was supposed to be doing today. This is not the first time that I needed to be hit over the head to move forward and most likely it would not be the last. But this morning, I was paying attention. How could I not, the soreness in my coccyx bone an immediate reminder of the message.  I would like to jump to the moral here before I share with you the wonderful experience I had. Be cognizant of the sighs that are helping you find your way forward. It is much easier to go with the flow that get thrown over to get your attention.

Now to the amazing event that I participated in. With now a new opportunity to literally get up and move forward, I perused the local events calendar. I spied a workshop that was using ART as a way to represent what they termed, our “inner demons.” In practice they were talking about those fear based emotions that we all carry, like anger, anxiety, and feelings of worthlessness. In the words of facilitator Lauren Bohy, “Participants will identify their own unique family of inner demons and focus on one of them to develop into a small stuffed creature. The workshop will culminate in a conference where each participant will have the opportunity to present their inner demon and take questions from the demon and human audience. By giving character to something that feels overwhelming, the stuffed demons become a tool for self-reflection.”

I ended up spending a good part of the day with many incredible heart centered women from the Charlotte, NC area in an art studio where Lauren guided us through self-examination before beginning cloth and wire masterpieces adorned with accoutrements of lace, ribbon, sequins, and fuzzy dangly bits and bobs.

We displayed our inner demon creations one by one, these wonderful representations that held the false beliefs about ourselves that no longer served us. They spoke from a tiny podium telling the group about themselves and answering questions in this safe environment. I was touched by these women's honesty, openness and warm nature. 

There were some tears and some ah ah moments. It was a freeing experience for me, as I shared my demons, my imperfections,  masks and the emotional baggage that I still carry, even as I help others move forward from theirs. No one condemned me, laughed or gave me other than a compassionate look as I let down my ego and showed them who I really am. 

And who am I?

It was their empathy that allowed me to admit that at times I hide my own feelings of inadequacy. I relish the fears I professed that morning as they that release me from that prison of secrecy, the door now ajar. 

It is truly a never ending journey to peace and unconditional love.  I am not perfect, far from it. I am grateful for having more pleasant moments than unpleasant ones these days, but it was time that I embraced my imperfections as human.

I am thankful to the group and amazing gals I was fortunate to meet as I continually look forward on my journey of self-discovery.

Lauren Bohy of lives in North Carolina. . This event was hosted by empowerMUSE through the through the CHARLOTTE NEW CULTURE GROUP.

Sending you love,
LeeZa Donatella