Why Don't I Love Myself?

I recently answered an email that spurred me to create an article to help anyone who may be going through similar feelings. She asked me 2 question: Why don't I love myself? and Can you help me find self-love?

Today I want to speak to you about how you're feeling about yourself, your self-image and if you love yourself?

If you answered these questions without enthusiasm, then perhaps you're not doing as well as you could be, so let's try and fix that.  If you wake up in the morning and spring out of bed, jump up singing or saying I love you to yourself, then you're in a good spot.

For those you aren't there yet, it's time to flip that frown upside down, turning it into a smile and saying I love you to the most important person in your life, YOU.

I've gone through periods in my life where I allowed the me inside to judge my appearance, my weight, my hair, makeup, height and my almost everything about my person. It was one day, when a friend told me that I was beautiful and was surprised that I didn't believe them that I had to take a long hard look at myself and do some housekeeping. I decided that it was time to shed some of those self doubts about myself as I stopped waiting until I..... (lost 10 pounds, got better clothes, etc.) to start loving and appreciating who I was right now.No longer was I going to believe that tiny little voice inside me that was telling me that I was not good enough to love myself.  Someone else's idea of perfection is overrated.  

When I decided that it was time to get off my chair and take that positive step, I was afraid, comfortable in those negative thoughts about myself. But I took that first step as I began surrounding myself with things I loved, blended some essential oils that are known to promote self love and I started to a feel better each day as I shed this fail belief. I started to believe that about myself the door opened, inviting more love into my life, starting with my own love of self.  Now when I look in the mirror I say, hello, beautiful.

So please STOP and take a moment to let this sink it.

You're already a perfect beautiful being of love. 

Wishing you all a day of self-love,
LeeZa Donatela 

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The Happiness Formula

Happiness is a choice. People can sugarcoat it and tell you that if you read this book or see that new guru that you'll become happy. Society capitalizes on unhappiness by selling you this or that having people believe that they'll be happy once they..... [fill in the blank]: lose 15 pounds, get in shape, get a bigger car, better job, buy a house, get that sports car or that hot sexy partner.  These are all nice, don't get me wrong, but once you get them, you realize that you're still not happy. So many people think that something external has to happen and continue to wait around for it to occcur, hoping to become happy. 

Happiness starts from within folks. And it's FREE. And here's the most important thing, you have to want to be happy. I meet so many people that are so accustomed to living an unhappy life, that they wear it like a worn tattered blanket wrapped around them so tightly that nothing can penetrate through it. You can think happiness all you want, but until you CHOOSE happiness as the primary emotion that fills the moments in your day, then you'll never actually BE HAPPY. Below is a quick Happiness Formula to help that I call finding life's gasms

  1. Wake up and take a few moments before the minutia of your day creeps into your mind and appreciate the covers, the blanket, the pillow and the feel of the sheets on your skin and watch how easily you hug that pillow and sigh.
  2. Purposely take a moment as you slip out of bed and walk to the bathroom and feel your bare feet on the carpet or wood floor, curl your toes and smile as you become grateful for being able to walk.
  3. Laugh at yourself and that bed head of hair as you look at yourself in the bathroom mirror and see the beauty in all that is you.
  4. Feel the heat and enjoyment of that first sip of that cup of coffee or tea as if moves through your mouth and down your throat.
When you take the extra few moments every morning to be grateful for life's little gasms, then what you're actually doing is vibrating in that state I call BEING LOVE, a place where you can feel a tickle in your heart. That's a sign that you're connecting to the true essence that is you. That's why it feels so good. The days when you are cognisant of the little things in life that get you to that Being Love state, are the days when traffic jams become opportunities to think about delicious moments, office politics becomes chances not to react to anothers unhappiness and doors begin to open for you.

Wishing you all a scrumptious day,
LeeZa Donatela 
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Be Confident

Finding your Self-Worth, Increase your Self-Confidence
Self-confidence and self-worth are closely tied together and are probably the 2 most underrated core beliefs that we face as humans. Why underrated? Because when we master them, we become so powerful, the possibilities are endless. 

There are some very smart people who believe that approval from others gives us a higher sense of self-esteem or self-worth. And for the longest time I believed them.  Let me step back a bit and explain that there was a time when I had problems with both these beliefs.   I used to be so concerned about what other people thought to the point that it kept me up at night.  It had me sifting through my closet taking forever to decide or alter what I wore, made me second guess what I said and doubt the actions I wanted to take.

Today, however, I do not have the above issues in these 2 core beliefs. Now, I don't go out of my way to hurt someone's feelings or walk into a church wearing a bikini singing Madonna's 1980s hit Like a Virgin, but at this point in my life I wear what makes me feel good, say what's on my mind and take action on what provides me with pleasure acting like the free goddess that I am without reservation or regret.  You're not there yet?  That's okay. 

How Can People Get There?
Self-confidence is the belief similar to that little engine that could named, Thomas, who kept on saying "I think I can."  The difference is just a little more determination changing "I think I can" to "I know I can." That combination of adding determination to the equation allows you to embrace more of your abilities. Combining that with self-worth, that sense of one's own value as a person irrespective of the approval of others and it carries more punch than your morning quadruple venti latte. 

Once you know who you are on the inside you become truly confident and doubt fades into oblivion. And once you are truly confident, it matters little what anyone else thinks about you, making it easy to follow and act on what excites you. 

LeeZa Donatella
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The energy associated with that person may still be lingering in your space or around your energetic field.  There are many times when you want to clear and cleanse the energy of that person in your space after for example, a break up, smudging is a good way to freshen up your space. Smudging cleanses the energy in the locations and energetic fields of persons, ridding them of residual vibrational frequencies and energetic imprints. I think it’s important to emphasize that energy is just emotion in motion and when you have had an energetic attachment to someone, like when you are in a relationship with them, that energy between you may linger, even after you are no longer together. How to Smudge video, How do I smudge my home. When to Smudge. removing evil spirits from my house, Prayers to say when smudging sage what is smudging, prayer for new home cleansing, 
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Wishing you a day filled with Love and all the blessings the Universe has to offer,

LeeZa Donatella
Author | International Inspirational Speaker
The everyday person's spiritualist, striving to help people move forward 

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Finding your Path and Making Hard Decisions

I know that in this journey we call life, there are may roads that we can travel. Some take the road less traveled, while some follow in the footprints of others. Perhaps it is a relative who went to a particular school or vocation. 

In life, we're all presented with situations where we need to make decisions. On a small scale it happens each morning as we decide what to wear or when ordering our designer coffee's. On a larger scale it happens as we made who to marry, where to live or what career path to follow.

We are all presented with situations where we have to make a decision. For a couple of my friends out there, even doing nothing is a decision. These choices we make will take us down one road or another as we move forward toward something. When faced with larger decisions, some people are not sure which direction to take and start second guessing themselves. Others probably weigh the pros and cons before making your decision. Lastly a few, the may be labeled mavericks or even perhaps crazy, just go with the choice that offered the more interesting alternative as they jump right into the deep end of the pool. Me, well I'm the girl that feel bliss while jumping out of an airplane and at times has more drive and motivation than anyone else that I've ever met. 

When it comes to decisions, I try to go with the flow, knowing that I'll be guided to the best choice at that particular time. Some of my most memorable experiences and life lessons happened when the decisions I made had me jumping into the deep end of the pool. In the end, and it always ends up being something more amazing and wondrous than I could have imagined.  

We all have had moments in life where we've looked back in hindsight and thought, "Gee, if I hadn't made that decision, I wouldn't be where I am today?"

They say that hindsight is 20/20. When you know that absolutely every experience is a gift that shapes us into the person that we are, you accept that gift gladly, knowing that these experiences allow us to practice in the areas of our lives where we excel, those where we explore new frontiers or others yet where we still need to do some work to release blocked emotions. 

So, is anyone way of deciding which road to take better than the other? 

Who am I to tell you how you need to proceed with your life? I can, however, tell you this: "All roads do lead to the same destination. It's just that some are longer and much bumpier than others."

Okay, now for the shameless plug. Actually it was brought to my attention that it would benefit so many people if I shared my full knowledge and experiences about smudging with the world. so my book released on October 10, 2015, Smudging for Beginners: Secrets from a Professional is now available on Amazon. 

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Have a day filled with love,

LeeZa Donatella
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Living Life with Integrity

Having lived in Sedona, AZ and working with Masters around the globe, I've met some pretty amazing energy practitioners, healers and spiritualists.  I've also encountered charlatans, some very successful and some desperate for attention or money. 

I'll never forget when I was standing in a shop in Sedona one afternoon and overheard one of the men there booking a tour over the phone for a couple to find the hidden Sacred Medicine Wheel, the Ceremonial Tepee and Mystical Labyrinth. When he quoted the price at $500 for 2 hours, I almost lost my lunch. You see all these sacred areas are free to the public and are located behind the Walgreen's on Route 89A. It was then that I felt compelled to publish my article, Sedona Fakes and started filming all around town, posting free videos to YouTube about all the free things to do in Sedona.

Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain. It's when we strive to do our life's work in any modality and business with honesty and integrity that we're on the road to living a happy, successful existence. Most people know that the knot that they get in their stomachs as they steer off this path when they're doing something that's not in alignment with their true loving essence.  It's that knot that signifies a lower fear-based emotion, perhaps greed, envy or despair.

When you live with integrity, you gain the respect and trust of others, showing them that what you have to offer adds value. This brings you bigger and better opportunities as more people trust you. In the long run, the rewards built on integrious values and actions are greater that you can possible imagine. From a vibrational frequency standpoint, people who live with integrity are vibrating higher as they epitomize what it means to be love.

I still am taken aback when I encounter liars and cheaters, what some term snake oil salesmen. I guess I still have work to do when it comes to compassion for all as I strive toward enlightenment.

Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
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