I was asked
by a couple of readers if I could expand on the difference between the fantasy
or the dream of love that I mentioned in my recent post named “What is True Love?”
and romanticism.
Being a romantic,
caring, playful goofball, I have a different view of life and could go on
and on about romantic love. Being a Piscean, I think this is especially true since
we tend to have romantic visions swimming in our heads at most times.
So yes, I believe
in romance between two partners that continues for years into their
relationship with kisses that last for hours, deep sighs when you look into your
beloved eyes that breathes loves essence throughout your entire being, allowing
you to literally tingle from the bottom of your toes to the top of your head, settling
gently in your heart. You find an extra skip in your step and appreciate with
fondness little things like notes on the mirror. But just because you are romantic it does not mean that your feet are not planted on the
ground.
Does this
sound like an opportunity for an oxymoron to you? Well, it’s not and let me
tell you why. The above is a romantic’s view of love. It is however not deluded
with the fantasy of love.
The fantasy
of love never has bad times, lost jobs, bad days and or “Honey, I am tired. ”
The fantasy never has an accident, does not get sick, and has no farts, vomiting,
or going to the bathroom and leaving the seat up. It never sweats, has to do
laundry or chores, and the car never breaks down.
The romantic
in love has all the above, but when their partner comes in from working in the
yard in the summer, they find the sweat and stench of their armpits, somehow
appealing. They look at holding the head of their partner when they are praying to
the porcelain goddess as a loving act of kindness and not a chore, they chuckle
when the other farts, cheer them up when they are having a bad day and laugh their
ass off at themselves when they fall into the toilet at 3 am because the seat is up. When driving together on a deserted road and the
car breaks down, they view it as an opportunity to explore or slow down in life instead
of an inconvenience. They find anything they do with their partner to be play,
even their taxes.
If after
hearing this you want to reach out and slap me, then you need to find
the romance darling. Let me leave you with this:
- If you have found that kind of love with someone, cherish the time you have together. Share romance with your beloved everyday and you will both live a more enriched life together
- If you are still searching for that special someone, love yourself and know the difference between the dream/fantasy and romance. You will attract the love you seek
I smile as I recall a partner from a long time past where we shared romantic love such as described above. So yeah, it can happen!
Wishing you a day filled with Love,
LeeZa Donatella
leezadonatella.com
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