How to React when Dealing with a Gaslighter
As I recently assisted a client with a situation, I wanted to use her case to help any of you who have faced or are facing gaslighting. For those of you who do not know this term, here is Wikipedia's definition: Gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted/spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception and sanity.
It was almost 2 years when, let's call her Sally, met someone who was an expert gaslighter. She got sucked into the gaslighters web, taking over a year before the final repercussions ended. She reached out to me over the weekend when she realized that she had met another one. This time she was laughing-out-loud recounting the same-old same-old just in a different package. As we continued to chat, in Sally's case, we found it interesting that the profile for both these unsavory characters was very similar. They were both sociopaths with an overinflated sense of self, brought up in environments where they were physically abused by the male presense, left home before age 15, lived on the streets, have no formal education, use key words and concepts to engage the educated, discounting those who have actual life experience, and they were both argumentative and masters at manipulation. That's a lot of similarities!
We took some time to understand why Sally would be faced with yet another one of these grifters and decided that the universe must think that she was ready for another crack at this experience to move forward, so they threw another of these perpetrators in her path. I'm happy to report that this time it took less than 30 hours before she figured out what was going on and I say this with a huge grin, "Sally, from the bottom of my heart, I'm so proud of you!"
Folks, there are many characters out there that want to manipulate and steal your time, money and sanity if you allow them. Know that they are just playing out a karmic dance, an agreement that you made with them before you both came to Earth. Know that the person who uses this technique lives a miserable existence, stuck in one place, not being able to move forward. Have only compassion for them as you move away from them, neither being engaging or confrontational. Instead give them no energy whatsoever, block their phone numbers and texts and auto-send their emails to your trash bin.
Wishing you a day filled with peace and resolution to past karmic events,