Determining What's Unacceptable in a Relationship

I received a call this evening from a young man in his twenties requesting advice regarding his current relationship. He has been dating what he described as a lovely young lady for a few months now, but was disheartened when she got as he described as “trashed” on Halloween and acted foolish. Frustrated by this incident he wanted to talk about it.  This is what I advised:

With some relationships at times our partners do things that make us feel uncomfortable, frustrated or downright angry.

But should we run the first time they do something we don't like?

Well we certainly don't want to be with someone who is doing something that is totally unacceptable to us, but we also have to weigh the act with the frequency to determine what is “unacceptable” as we match that with the overall character of our partner.

For example,our partner drinks too much a couple of times of year on a special occasion when they're not getting behind the wheel, but the rest of the year they show us what an amazing person that they are. Does that hold the same weight as a partner who gets drunk every weekend or is unfaithful?

A relationship is like a delicate flower. You wouldn't want root rot or thorns to spoil that beauty so nurture it and it flourishes. Everything is relative and it's up to you to determine what is acceptable and what's a deal-breaker. And once you make that determination respect your own decision and don't comprise yourself.

Wishing you a day filled with the deliciousness of sharing your love with others,
LeeZa Donatella
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