Lessons in Gaslighting


For those of you who do not know this term, here is Wikipedia's definition: Gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted/spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception and sanity. 

A gaslighter is a narcissist and sociopath with an over inflated sense of self. The ones I’ve met typically have no formal education past high school, can be argumentative, but are always masters at manipulation. 
They cause chaos to manipulate people and situations, isolating the victim from to come across as the victim's savior, or they create chaos in order to get attention.

My friend Lorna described a recent encounter with Phil, who she met at a church function. He initially told her what she wanted to hear, then lied to her about people in her church group as a way of isolating and controlling her. Most gaslighters are grifters, using their techniques to ultimately siphon funds from your bank accounts. 

Don't beat yourself up if you fall victim to one, but know that there are many characters out there that want to manipulate and steal your time, money and sanity if you allow them. They are just playing out a karmic dance, an agreement that you made with them before you both came to Earth.  

Facebook friend, David "Avocado" Wolfe has put together a great list here below of the 10 signs you may be a victim of a gaslighter.  He's an amazing naturalist, so please look him up at https://www.davidwolfe.com.


If this is any consolation, gaslighters live a miserable existence, stuck in one place, not being able to move forward. 

Dealing with a Gaslighter
Have only compassion as you move away from them, neither being engaging or confrontational. Instead give them no energy whatsoever. When they accuse you, just say, "I agree to disagree, with that,  but you're certainly entitled to your feelings."  It goes nowhere and it never ends if you don't. Then block their phone numbers and texts and auto-send their emails to your trash bin.

Wishing you a day filled with peace and resolution to past karmic events,

LeeZa Donatella
Author and Inspirational Speaker
Books  (Smudging for Beginners, The State of Being Love) on Amazon

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