Tantric Sacred Sex

I was speaking to someone today briefly about my version of that sacred union that I have been practicing for years. It's been some time since I explained this concept to anyone, and it was not the right moment to get into detail today. I know I touch on some of these concepts in my spiritual novel, but thought perhaps it was time to share a little of what I know with all of you.

In this world, when you find a partner whose energy is vibrating at a similar level to your own and is open to the possibilities beyond the 2-by-2 illusion most people dwell, this practice can be a pathway, a life changing experience that can lead to Shaktipat and Kundalini openings.

For me this practice is a union between 2 partners that connect to experience a living expression of the divine in each other.

It’s a union that's nurtured through the ritual, creating that sacred space, first grounding yourself, opening your crown chakra, before slowly sharing sensual pleasures. It involves breathing and sound, light touch and eye contact as you allow your partner to see into you. It is this “in to me see” or intimacy that builds as you explore each other in zones of the body other than male or female genitalia.

It's a full body connection, sitting naked facing each other, intertwined, where the tips of your fingers touch and you feel the energy you’re now sharing, all your cells electrified. Moving hands palm-to-palm, lips so very close, yet not touching, eyes locked onto one another’s and breathing synchronized.

Then the kissing begins, eyes still open in a relaxed gaze, exploring lips together, then separately, then tasting the sides of the mouth. And the tongue, that glorious tool of pleasure, the tip so sensitive to touch, playing and tantalizing, twirling slowly, teasing.

Then your partner lifts you onto them, the full union of bodies now complete in euphoric harmonyentwined in each other’s life essence on the physical plane, where you cannot tell where one ends and the other begins.

It's then that transcendence begins,  the melding of minds where communication needs no words;  the joining of consciousness’ into a state where you travel together in discovery of the answers to the questions of the Universe.

The goal is relishing the union for as long as possible.
Wishing you a delicious day,
LeeZa Donatella


Why am I Not Happy?

I had it all, the nice house, handsome hubby, successful corporate career, friends, vacations, expensive cars and frequent vacations.  And yet, I was restless, unfulfilled, knowing something was missing. This kept me up at night. Was I being selfish wanting more out of life when so many who did not have it as good as I? Why was I feeling this way?

I discovered that my story was not unique as I molded my life in the cookie cutter shape of what I was taught was the perfect equation for happiness. 

When I did, I came to the realization that I was not living the life I wanted, albeit the fact that from the outside, what people saw when they looked at my life, I seemed to have it all.

What I forgot was to ask myself the question, what would make me happy?

And it was not a new car, a promotion or more success that was going to bring me to the happy place I wanted to be.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

If you are shaking your head yes, then know that there is nothing wrong with you.

Today, I am filled with joy and elation as I create the life that I desire.

Some may call me a round peg in the square hole, but I proudly wear that as a badge of honor, because I no longer look to others to validate me, I am self-validating, as I acknowledge my own worth. I may not be miss popular, but I do what I want, knowing exactly what it is that I want at any given moment. The opinions I form, well, they are all my own.  

I move away from situations and interactions that do not bring me joy and stretch myself in new directions, some out of my comfort zone. I do not allow others judgement of me to influence my decisions and am grateful each moment of the day.

For those who can relate to these words, perhaps it’s time to take a chance on a new direction, a new perception of you, your life and what excites you.

Sending you wishes of transformation,
LeeZa Donatella


Attracting Abundance by Understanding Enough and Releasing Lack

My dad had a couple of Porsche’s.   I loved those cars, and on occasion he would throw me the keys and say, keep it under 90 mph, kid.  What a rush I would get everytime I got behind the wheel. As a convertible baby, I was in love with the Porsche 911 convertible, looking at pictures saying, someday I will have this car.  

I made a killing in the Y2K technology frenzy, and walked into the dealership to test drive my dream car. It was an early edition 2000 Porsche 911 Turbo Carrera Cabriolet, red with a black top and fins. The seat fit my ass like a glove. I took it for a spin, getting out of the car, the salesman still pale, white knuckled from our test drive.  

I never go to a dealer unless I know what I want and am ready to purchase.  I could buy that car cash but realized that I did not need it!  I said thank you and walked out.  For some reason, this was the day that I realized what enough was.  It was the day I left feelings of lack behind, knowing that I was seeking something more.

You see, buying something provides a high during the time we get it. It's a fix. What I figured out is that unless you’re already filled with the spiritual elixir that most of us seek, that feeling soon fades.  There are many terms for this elixir, that high, that joy that we experience. Perhaps it's that shot of dopamine that our brains give us as a reward. 

Knowing that it's not in something we buy helps us get to enough as we eliminate feelings of lack. That changes the pattern and opens us up to bigger things. When you learn to get that fix from within, and not from something external, you change your vibration, your frequency.

So here it is. The problem is that when you live in lack you attract lack.

Once you experience enough, lack fades from existence.

Today money and things do not hold the same value to me. They’re just avenues, an end to justify the means.  I have the knowledge that I am provided with what I need to do the things I want to do, when I want to do them. That is the mark of a true abundance as I am continually provided with a delicious life.

My message to you today is to always live as if whatever you have is enough, in excess of what you desire and need.  It is the first step in raising your vibration to an enriched existence and abundance. 

Wishing you a day filled with bliss,

LeeZa Donatella
Author and Inspirational Speaker
The everyday person’s spiritualist, striving to help people move forward